Birth Partners / DoulaThe important role of birth partners / doulas in the HypnoBirthing process
Birth Partners / Doula
I am also able to offer a Doula service (Where I give support, help, and advice to you during pregnancy and during and after the birth), contact me for more information about this, I have attended many births in this capacity and can combine your HypnoBirthing lessons with the Doula services.
As a first time father, I would strongly recommend HypnoBirthing! It was extremely helpful for me to feel engaged and to participate in the preparations for the birth of our daughter, rather than feeling out of my depth and unable to be supportive. Using relaxation and visualisation techniques from Sophie’s teaching, my wife’s labour – while not exactly as we planned it and not intervention-free – went well in the end and I was so very surprised how calm my baby daughter was upon delivery (and still is).
I was warned in advance that I might end up being on the receiving end of some strong words but my wife was much more relaxed than I could have ever have expected, and I fully credit the confidence and relaxation that comes from HypnoBirthing for this. Strongly recommend to any skeptical fathers-to-be out there.Iain, London
A quote I really love…
‘You who look forward to serving as a birth companion – husband, partner, friend – have a very special part to play in HypnoBirthing. Countless women who have given birth through this programme have laid the success of their birthing experience directly upon the support and assistance of the birth companion. The support and bonding that take place throughout labour and birthing create a partnership, the beauty of which defies description. Couples report that they become closer than they ever thought they could be. The knowledge that she is supported by a caring and loving companion is one of the most important factors in maintaining the emotional well-being of the pregnant mother and the baby she is carrying.
By learning techniques to support the mother during pregnancy, and participating in the necessary practice at home, you give assurance to your baby that he or she is already an important part of your lives.
As an integral part of the process, you bring the necessary elements of trust and assurance to the birthing environment. You will be the facilitator – helping her to condition her mind to relax in response to your prompts. The sound of your voice and the touch of your hand will guide her through labour. The attention, understanding, encouragement and closeness creates a sharing that is unequalled, and all these things will help create a bond that will linger throughout your lives.
If you are approaching this birth with fear of watching someone you love experience discomfort, the HypnoBirthing classes will allay those fears. You and the birthing mother will learn techniques that will alleviate discomfort and possibly even eliminate it. Your support and love help to make this happen.
A woman in labour can be vulnerable, sensitive and unassertive. You will be her advocate, her spokesperson, her guide. You will be the liaison between her and your caregivers, both before and during birthing. Your involvement in preparing the Birth Preference Sheets and in speaking for the two of you to ensure that the plan is carried out will be among the most important tasks. Your presence and support, especially during the actual birthing, cannot be equalled. And, at the moment of birth, you will feel the exhileration that comes with knowing that together you have made this miracle – one that neither of you will ever forget.’
The Science of ‘Father Love’
Today nearly 90% of fathers are present at the birth of their children. They are also caretaking their children with increasing frequency.
In one third of the households with preschool children at home, if a parent is the caretaker, it is the father.
In 1975 fathers spent an average of 15 minutes per day with their children; by 1995 it was 2 hours. Fathers are beginning to discover, and put into action, additional facets of their instinctive nature, paternal love.
Can it be a coincidence that this timing correlates perfectly with fathers entering the birthing room and becoming lovingly involved in their children’s arrival?
Patrick M Houser